Our expert says:
If he has taken 5 years to reach year 2 of the program, he's either not much of a student, or not really trying, and I'm surprised any reputable college would keep someone on in these circumstances. And at a rate of passing one subject per year, how many decades would it take for him to get the degree ? And what are his plans as to what to do once he has the degree ?
Whether his behaviour is acceptable, is for you to decide. It would be very understandable if you found it unacceptable. Through his low rent, and perhaps an interest-free loan for his car, you are subsidizing the lifestyle he chooses to lead. If he is wasting his money on going to expensive restaurants, etc., then he is not serious about financial and other forms of responsibility. And for him to take ANYTHING from your home without your permission, is theft, and he should be left in no doubt about that. Maybe, if the re-write is soon, you may want him to complete that. But then isn't it time to be firm and insist that he move out and become independent ? If he can afford the fancy restaurants ( and probably other extravagant spending ) he can afford to repay the loan more quickly and to pay market rent elsewhere. ANd also make it clear that if he takes ANYTHING from your home without your consent ---you will call the police and lay charges of theft.
Maybe do some web-seaching and read up about Tough Love, as he sounds as though he needs some serious lessons in the realities of life.
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