Our expert says:
If you have had the experience of orgasm then you know that you have the capacity and you know what to expect. It's difficult to say with certainty, but three possibilities might be:
(1) you are psychologically blocking letting go for some reason (anxiety about being hurt - not sure about the circumstances for your ex becoming an ex),
(2) you were lucky that your ex happened to do what was pleasurable for you and you never had to direct him as you may need to direct your new boyfriends,
(3) either of the first two to begin with, but then you began 'watching' and trying to make yourself experience an orgasm by willing it to happen - in this case you are not really focusing on the sensation and enjoying the moment but are rather more in your head.
Claire - SASHA
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