Our expert says:
Sorry to be blunt, but this is a sick family situation you are describing. If your husband sjambok's ANY child of ANY age, that is child abuse and criminal assault, and should be reported to the police, and CHildline and CHild Welfare --- he is not fit to be anywhere near a child. THe offense isn't about doing this in front of others, but about doing it at all. There is NO culture in which that is appropriate or lawful.
And then you say he has threatened to kill your 2 children if you move out from him ?
Why would he bring am 18 year-old to live with you, and allow him access to your child ? And what is this about the boy STANDING on your child and being rough with him ? That's further child abuse. Is this kid related to you in some way, or has nobody told you ?
This sounds like an awfully complicated set-up, with YOU looking after someone-else's child, while they look after your baby ?
Marriage counselling might help, but this might be beyond even a good counsellor. Discuss the situation with Childline and similar agencies dealing with child abuse, and work out with them the safest way to withdraw and protect yourself and your children from this highly abusive man.
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