Our expert says:
You say you are happy with how the police handled this, and that the school is taking it seriously, yet you say that no-one is taking this seriously ? Surely the police did, and other parents would, and the school did - can't they post people in the playground during breaks, to watch for such interference with the kids ?
And this is clearly time for you to have a CALM, non-frightening byt serious chat with your daughter about no trusting even friendly strangers in such situations.
NZ is indeed a much safer society than SA, but unpleasant people who might prey on children occur in all societies ; and though fortunately uncommon, of course even one is too many in any community.
There's no need to greatly alarm her, but make it clear that there are a few nasty people out there who want to hurt kids, and will praise them and tell them how pretty they are, to get their confidence. Maybe she's a bit vain about wanting to be told how pretty she is. Help her to find other things about herself to value.
Maybe you fel especially ad because you were there, albeit on duty, and saw what was happening without being immediately able to help - or maybe you worry about what might have happened had you NOT been there.
You really should discuss all of this with the person treating your bipolar disorder, to limit your tendency to catastrophize and over-react, here. You sem to be asuming that something much worse is INEVITABLE, rather than just possible, and to a large extent preventable.
Remmber that she may be more negatively affected by your extreme alarm than by what actually happened. YOu seem to be diving dep into constructions of hopelessness, and creating awful possibilities that are barely if at all possible, and to have developed a habit of such extreme negative thinking. CBT sttyle counselling could help a lot with this, not only contribnuting to your health, but of real benefit to your child.
So look after yourself, and get counselling so as to be calmer and more realistic.
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