Our expert says:
So, if my maths is up to it, he fathered the child WHILE already cheating on his poor wife ? Its difficult for someone in your husband's position, especially when someone springs such a confidence on you - but I don't accept that it is fair for the guilty party to confess to you and then insist that you maintain confidence about his/her wrong-doing. That is a way of forcing you to become an accomplice in the wrong-doing, and that is not fair.
mikky makes sense, and I know of others who have used variations on this method. The miscreant is given a deadline to break the news to his victim ( in this case the wife ) before his confidant does so himself.
One wonders why he told your husband - was he wanting to brag, or perhaps indicating that he does feel a degree of guilt ?
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