Posted by: Anja Harasani | 2009-09-27

first time

this is the first time i am having sex with my boyfriend and i am really nervous. i wanted to know everything about the first time from the shaving to the orgasm.

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It is great that you are getting information before. Management of pubic hair is personal choice – some leave it, some clip and ‘tidy’ it up, some shave or wax. Think of sex like climbing stairs – you don’t have to charge for the top step the first time! Relax, maybe bath or shower together – aromatic oils and candles set the scene. Spend a lot of time stroking, kissing, massaging each other – the skin is the biggest sex organ! Great foreplay is very important. Communicate about what feels good. Mutual masturbation and oral sex are good starting points too. Before first vaginal penetration (if your hymen is still intact) I suggest that you try inserting a couple fingers into your vagina to make sure that your hymen is not too tight or thick. Make sure you have some soft tissues or a damp facecloth at hand. When you are fully aroused and well lubricated – use extra water-soluble lubricant, help guide your partner with penetration. If penetration happens when you are fully aroused, even though there may be a little pain, the ‘pleasure’ hormones released are natural painkillers. There may be a little bleeding – so after sex have the tissues / facecloth handy to help clean up. It is always advisable to empty your bladder after sex this can help prevent urinary tract infections. Communication is key. Orgasm may or may not happen during penetration –each person is different. You may find you climax easier with masturbation / oral sex. Be ok with taking time to learn together. There a lots of good books with advice and illustrations. Expert opinion is provided by the SA Sexual Health Association –

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