Our expert says:
This sounds like 'performance anxiety'. I would suggest that you take some time to get to know a new partner before attempting to have sex. You might try sexual activities like mutual masturbation or oral sex where the need to 'penetrate' is less important. These activities also carry less STI risk. There are some useful partner exercises on the SASHA website. If this continues to occur you may consider seeing a counsellor.
Expert opinions are provided by the SA Sexual Health Association: www.sexualhealth.co.za
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