Our expert says:
Firstly, why not see a good local couples counsellor together and see what can be sorted out ? I can understand how, despite his earlier promises to you, he could be tempted if there sems to be a chance of the band successfully taking off again - but the touring, etc., life of a band is not easy for any relationships the band members have with each other, let alone with b and gf.
Its not realisic to expect him to be like your fdad, in good or bad ways - he is himself.
Don't make the mistake many people, maybe especially women, make, of marrying not the guy he actually is, but the guy you hope you will be able to turn him into.
Go for the counselling together it could really help.
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