Our expert says:
Ageing and Sexuality expert
It sounds as if sex is the last problem you need to focus on in this relationship. You sound angry, resentful, unhappy in yourself and in your feelings towards your girlfriend. Sex can become the playground to act out unsaid angers and conflicts.
I suggest you get some relationship counselling. With both of you holding back on orgasm, I wonder what else you are withholding from yourselves and each other. She makes you feel sexually uncomfortable and self conscious and low in confidence.
In terms of women's signs of orgasms - well, each woman shows her own unique response - mostly she feels a sense of satisfaction post orgasm.
Go and get some counselling as a couple.
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