Our expert says:
You have been kind and generous. But whereas it sounds as though your other sibs have responsibly used your help, this sister sounds lazy and expecting to just be taken care of by others.
You are right to have sent her home to her dad, for being un grateful, lazy and selfish, and rude to others. Don't allow your irresponsible father to blame you or leave everything to you. He has the priomary responsibility to care for his children, and has been far too happy to leave this to you. Why should you waste your hard-earned money paying school fees if she may well not even bother to attend or use the opportunity.
When he tells her you don't want her anymore, use that opportunity to trach them both an important lesson. It is not her as a person that you object to, but her behaviour, which she can and must change. Her, behaving as she was behaving, you truly and wisly do NOT want around any more, and neither would any other human with any sense.
But make it clear that if she changes her bad behaviour, and shows she can and will go to school and work hard there, you can reconsider that decision.
If he has enough money to afford the luxury of a girlfriend, and to "relax" he can afford to send this girl to school - and he might then be motivated to encourage her to attyend and work, as he wouldn't want to waste his own money on her.
DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. And stop buying the little brat anything until she deserves it, and then limit i to things hat are seriously needed. Her father is irresponsibly training her to be someone who sponges on others, and you should not agree to join that process.
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