Our expert says:
OK, as neurotics, we don't always learn from our mistakes the first time round. But instead of just protesting, lets force ourselves to learn what we need to learn. NO man, let alone a disappointing one, is worth harming yourself in any way over. You know from very long experience, that cutting and hurting yourself physically in no way helps resolving your psychological hurt. This needs to be dealt with with your shrink(s).
By all means postpone not merely marriage but any decision on proceeding with marriage. You know your kids would be damaged if you suicided, whether or not they were with you at the time.
He needs to repay you in full and with interest all the money of yours he has used, long before its worth even thinking forther about marriage, and he needs to know that any further financial shenanigans will lead to criminal charges for fraud. Money seems to be his primary interest.
Keep dusting, and standing up again
Work with your psychologist to be able to lean on yourself, not needing a man who may be wanting something very diferent from what you actually need.
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