Our expert says:
You demonstrate so well, a problem I often comment on --- the major mistakes one can make in life by assuming that everything is as it appears from the outside --- that other people are as happy, confident, and sucessful as it looks to envious or troubled eyes looking at them from outside. From the models I've known and treated, they are often miserable and unfulfilled people, who, having made this career choice in life rarely have opportunities to do anything else, however unsatisfying it is once they arive there. And you assume all models are like the handful of successful, and over-publicised ones. Not only are they rarely as happy as they tell the media, but they are not representative of the large number of non-legendary models who don't get that spotlight.
The women you see are NOT l;iving your dream --- they are doing a job, which is blissin your dreams, not in reality. When do they "look like they're enjoyign life so much " ? They almost always look glum, stunned or bored on the catwalk, and when else do you see them ? Do you see them getting up in the morning, to nibble on a lettuce leaf and then throw up, so as to stay the scrawny shape the fashinistas perversely demand ? How many of them look like real women ? How few have the life of a real woman ? Are youi extrapolating from magazine pictures of them posing at parties ? DO you reall think that's what their life is like ? You say you believe ( I don't believe you ) that looks aren't anything --- how many of those models have anything else ?
Then the other source o needless misery, is that you seem to have believed every nasy thing any mean and horrible person has ever saiod about you, and none of the good things good people have said about you.
Counselling could help you to appreciate yourself an the many things that are good about you, to grow in self-esteem and self-confidence.
If you want to be a bit lighter weight but remain healthy, don't copy the unhealhy lifestyle of the models, but get good nutritional advice, eat and exercise healthily. Most men don't want to marry a model --- they don't want a thin womn, painful to cuddle, and too vain to notice them. Celebrity men may like a model on their arm at special events, so as to take a fashionable picture for the magazines, but not to take home with them.
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