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Posted by: Linda | 2011-02-07

Fear of losing him

Hi there
I have been in a this healthy relationship for 3 year now with a wonderful guy, I love him to bits and he loves me too and has never ever given me a reason to be suspicious of any disloyalty. But if i dont see him for 2 or 3 days i start to have a fear of losing him.
He loves me i know that but i dont know whats wrong with me and i dont want to ruin our relationship.

any advice?

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So the problem lies within you, and not within him or the relationship. Maybe a lack of self-esteem and self-confidence, which counselling could help with.

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Posted by: Truth | 2011-02-07

If I didnt have an engagement ring now l would also worry about losing him. Three years is long enough for him to decide.

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Posted by: Lilo | 2011-02-07

It would appear that " Just Asking"  has hit the nail on the head. Linda did not answer the question about commitment and in which direction the relationship is heading. Indeed after 3 years one would surely want to know if the relationship is going to be permanent. Answering that the families love both partners is a very odd reply. I am also wondering if there is not an underlying reason for these feelings of insecurity which needs to be addressed.
Her partner may well be a blessing from God but when is this relationship going to be blessed by God in marriage?

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Posted by: G | 2011-02-07

You need to put your big girl panties on and start believing in yourself. Tell yourself that he is lucky to have you too.... self esteem is very sexy...

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Posted by: Linda | 2011-02-07

Hi Just asking
The relationship is going somewhere :-), my man is a very wonderful man, a blessing from God. But am sure i will be fine coz i dont have a reason for being insecured its just a feeling i am experiencing for now. His family loves me and my family loves him. everything is ok.

thanks for asking,
Linda

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Posted by: Just Asking? | 2011-02-07

After 3 years u r probably looking for some kind of permanent commitment such as marriage. This would be reasonable, is this why u r feeling insecure? Is this relationship going any where?

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Posted by: Linda | 2011-02-07

thanks, coz i really dont want to mess things up between us. will try so hard to let this feeling go away...

Linda

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2011-02-07

So the problem lies within you, and not within him or the relationship. Maybe a lack of self-esteem and self-confidence, which counselling could help with.

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