Our expert says:
Hi, I think I'm currently too frozen to be unwell, though maybe something nasty will reveal itself when I thaw out. Having also struggled with alcoholic family members personally as well as professionally, I understand how difficult this is. Its very tempting to try to cut an alcoholic trouble-maker out of your family life, but as you describe, other circymstances may make this difficult. Sme alcoholics are brilliant at simulating affection and blaming everyone and evrything but themselves for the troubles they make for themselves and others. And nice people get sucked in, and exploited, sometimes for decades. I do hope he is not exploiting your parents and getting them to fund his drinking.
However, apparently you have the lesser problem of, it sounds, only being inflicted with his company when you visit them. As you presumably rally do want to spend time with your folks, the issue would probably be best handled by desensitizing yourselves and not allowing him to get under your skin and irritate you. Assume that he will be insincere but that this need not matter to you. Don't trust him, but dont get bothered by this. Sometimes you visit a loved family member who lives somewhere with a lousy climate, and you make the best of it. Do likewise. As Abigail says, tolerate him.
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal
advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.