Our expert says:
Well, maybe this situation is understandable, but not on the information supplied here. Presumably rather than just rowing about it, you and he actually discuss this ?
Good respopnses from our readers. As Maria says, it very much depends on whether over any extended period of time in their relationship, he played a fatherly role in regard to the child, such that he's reasonably feel fond of the child and the child would look on him like a dad, and someone who quite reasonably might help in a time of need. If this was done only as a favour to the ex because she didn't bother to make other arangements, its much less reasonable.
Does this happen regularly, or was this some sort of emergency ?
You don't mention the child's age, which is puzzling. Its a most peculiar mother unless the child is actually adult and able to look after herself ( and call her own taxi ) who would send any child out on a bus long distance, to arrive in the middle of the night.
As you describe his behaviour, it doesnt sound as though he had any intention of upsetting you, nor saw it as in any way demeaning to you.
Talk about it, calmly, and sort it out.
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