Home > Experts > Question Search health advice Find an answer Question Posted by: Thuli | 2012/05/18 Q.Exclusivity.... When does it kick in - from day one or from the 1 month/2 month mark? The proverbial 3 month mark? Not until the wedding day?I doubt there will be any sort of consensus on this one but was just wondering what the sentiment is out there. I am seeing a guy a few weeks now, we talk and text all hours of the day and night but in terms of face time he comes over only once a week. It''s now belatedly occurred to me that maybe there are other fine young ladies out there also receiving their weekly quota of fleshly indulgence. Do I just blurt out ''Look, who else''s a$$ are you tapping??'' or do I assume that when he is ready to go exclusive he will sit me down and say so? I am not the type to harass and harangue a man for answers. But I am nonetheless curious...a few weeks into seeing someone, are things typically exclusive or are they typically not? Or is that wholly dependent on why you are seeing that person at all?Comments? 7 Pin It user comments Posted by: Brendan | 2012/05/18 That''s great Thuli. Never mind me and my warped sense of humor! Reply to Brendan Posted by: Brendan | 2012/05/18 Mmmmmm you necrophiliac you! Lmao! Reply to Brendan Posted by: Thuli | 2012/05/18 Oh and I do have a hobby - studying forensic pathology!!! Just grips me much the way a weekly lover would :) Reply to Thuli Posted by: Thuli | 2012/05/18 Good perspective Brendan - and yes the previous poster is certainly coated in algae :) I don''t chase after this chap at all and pleasantly enough, find myself rather unworried about him seeing other people it is more curiosity than any sort of gut-wrenching angst. We are not married and not a serious couple which means it is ok to admit to each other that one or both of us are not exclusive... not exactly the kind of admission you can make in a marriage :) I think will leave things as they are...perhaps the reason the issue is gaining traction in my life is that ardent suitors are appearing from nowhere - proving the theory (mine anyway) that somehow a woman who is sexually satisfied gives off a glow of sorts/emits pheromones other males pick up on. Bcz ever since I started seeing this fella it''s as though I am indeed a hot 21yr old chick, for all the admirers I attract, lol! I put it down to two things - your (accurate) preposition that attraction is not a choice and the fact that there is indeed something about the forbidden fruit! que sera, sera :) Reply to Thuli Posted by: Brendan | 2012/05/18 OMG are you my jealous chick? Lol! But you do sound a bit like her. In my case I hang out with my friends, go to band practice, play pool, watch conspiracy movies, Infowars and all that all week. I have sh!t to do other than see my chick every single day and listen to her telling me off about staring at other woman.So my advice is get a hobby baby. And enjoy your man when you can. He''s not seeing someone else. But if you carry on the way you are, you are going to drive him to. Reply to Brendan Posted by: ..... | 2012/05/18 I doubt that ur a hot 21 yr old lass... So changes are the the guy ur talking abt is also past his sell by date.. It could be that he is clearing his baggage or ur number something on his list...U gonna have to prove ur point to him that ur worth it. Just don''t blow it by stalking the guy... As adults only time will tell if he was really into u & honest with u... An honest man''s perspective Reply to ..... Posted by: Thuli | 2012/05/18 Oh, and one of the reasons I am asking is that from the first time I was with him I just naturally stopped all other activity. But that''s not to say he did. And the reason I see him only once a week is that I''m a single mum, not at all keen on my child seeing him and getting confused or anxious about her place in my life. So when she goes to her Pappy is typically when I invite him over. Reply to Thuli Want to comment? Your name (optional) Your comment To prevent spam please solve this simple math problem: × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. × Thanks for commenting! Your comment will appear on the site shortly. Reply to Your name (optional) Your comment To prevent spam please solve this simple math problem: advertisement From our sponsors Hill's Science Plan Canine Mini range What is Diabetic Neuropathy? There are more than 200 different viruses which can cause a cold A clinically proven skin care range is now available