Our expert says:
I think it's generally best for matters like maintenance and any changes in it, as well as access to the kids, to be decided by the Maintenance or similar court, so everyone is heard and a fair decision is made and kept to.
Its dificult to meet with a guy against whom you have a restraining order, even if for innocent reasons connected with the kids.
Maybe he is indeed having difficulties coping with his sense of loss and resentment about the separation / divorce, etc.But he needs then to see a counsellor and work through all these issues. Nobody can help him if he decides that they can't and refuses to work sincerely with them. In the situation you describe, it would make sense to call his psychologist and inform him/her of your concerns and the reasons for feeling concerned - that is the person who ought to deal with this.
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