Our expert says:
It is not all that uncommon for woman, especially with limited sexual experience, limited exposure to sexual literature including images of the male penis and meeting a man with an above average sized penis, or just a man larger than her previous sexual partners to experience anxiety about her capacity to accommodate him vaginally. The anxiety would impact the women's arousability resulting in her experiencing limited lubrication and she may react with muscular tension and an inability to relax into the sexual encounter. This could result in either the woman experiencing anticipatory pain and/or actual pain during penetration and attempts at thrusting due to limited lubrication and constricting of the muscle at the vaginal opening.
A women's vaginal canal is a potential space, a space that during child birth can accommodate to the size of a baby's head. Yet we still live in a time where many women do not receive accurate information about their sexuality and their sexual anatomy to equip them to engage in sexual encounters in a fully informed and sexually empowered way.
It seems you have invested time in the development of the relationship with this man. Assuming that you are still interested in a relationship with him, I would firstly say that you need not be afraid, and that if he respects you and is interested in a relationship with you, it would be helpful for the two of you to meet and discuss the experience. You can communicate your anxiety, educate yourself about your body, take things slower.
Getting to know and explore your own body would also be helpful. Experimenting with different size vibrators and/or dildos would also help you get to know the potential accommodation of your vaginal opening and canal, when u are relaxed and well lubricated.
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