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Posted by: Moeg | 2012/11/05

Ek is lelik met almal

Ek is lelik met my vrou as ek nie my sin kry nie. Baklei voor die kinders en blameer haar as ons nie seks het nie. Ek het gewig verloor en na my voorkoms begin kyk en gehoop dit sal sake verbeter, maar volgens haar gee ek haar nie ruimte nie en verwag ek te veel. Ek doen so veel ek kan in en om die huis om haar happy te hou. Ek kry alerhande stupid idees om n ander vrou te soek, laat weg te bly om haar te laat worry maar ek weet dit gaan dinge net erger maak en ek wil nie die kinders seer maak nie. Het ek dipressie of issues om met n kop dokter uit te klaar?

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Have you always been this way, or just recently. Or maybe it was just recently that you realized that this is what you do, and that its not a good thing to do ? Sounds like there are marital problems between you two, and marriage counselling from a proper counsellor would be a good idea. It sounds as though you've been trying various tactics on your own, but without fully understanding yourself OR your wife, its not likely to be successful.
Losing weight may be a good idea from several different points of view, but won't solve the problem of having an ugly temper and being nasty to people.
Depression is possible ( its a common disorder ) - maybe the marriage counsellor, once dealing with the problems between the pair of you, could help you to clarify whether depression is also a part of the problem, and if so, seeing a psychiatrist about that could be a good idea, too.

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Posted by: Chris758 | 2012/11/07

MOEG ek dink jy moet mooi kyk na wat jou vrou doen. Die feit dat sy ''n ander vrou gesoen het en dat jy wou kyk en dalk dan nog aansluit by hulle speletjie beteken vir my dat daar ''n paar probleme in jou huwelik is!!

as sy met jou seks het en jy die ou dingetjie wil geniet jaag sy jou aan.....al dalk gewonder hoekom? Sy wil dit net verby kry. Dalk iemand anders waarvan jy nie weet nie?

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Posted by: MOEG | 2012/11/05

I think it got worse over the years, but it has always been there. My wife is standing up for herself and the children. I respect that. We had problems a while ago when my wife kissed another woman and my hormones and jealously took the better of me. I wanted to watch and she said I could join in if the other woman agrees. But i messed up everything and now it is not an option. She said she will never do it again and loves me and the kids to much for nonsence like this. She not so willing when it comes to making an effort for sex. Quick, boom bang and it is over. She complains if I want to take my time. She says I''m insucure and should expect isex when it happens and not force the issue. I try talking about issues but she says it is always about sex and doesn''t want to talk about anything.

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