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Posted by: YOLANDA | 2012/05/18

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MY MAN EN EK IS GESKEI NA 4 JAAR SE HUWELIK. HY HET NET EENDAG BY DIE HUIS GEKOM EN GESE HY SKEI MY HY WIL AANGAAN MET SY LEWE EN DIE LEWE GENIET. EK HET NIE DIE EGSKEIDING TEENGESTAAN NIE. ''N WEEK NA DIE EGSKEIDING DEUR IS KOM HY TERUG EN SE DAT HY ''N FOUT GEMAAK HET EN HY SOEK DIE STANDVASTIGHEID WAT HY BY MY GEHAD HET. ALLES HET GOED GEGAAN VIR ''N MAAND EN ''N HALF EN TOE VIND EK UIT DAT HY EN ''N " VRIENDIN SAAM SOU VAKANSIE GAAN HOU HET. EN DIT NET NA ONS ''N SKAARS MAAND UITMEKAAR UIT WAS. DIE EGSKEIDING WAS TOE NIE EERS DEUR NIE. EK IS NIE KWAAD DAAROOR NIE MAAR WEL OMDAT HY DIT ONKEN HET. HY HET SO KWAAD GEWORD DAT HY SY SELFOON STUKKEND GEGOOI HET EN VIR MY GESE HET DIT IS VERBY. ELKE KEER AS ''N DING NIE SY WAY GAAN NIE VLOEK HY EN SLAAN GOED STUKKEND. MOET EK HOM EERDER DIE TREKPAS GEE? HY WAS SO TOE ONS GETROUD WAS OOK EN EK HET HOM ALTYD PROBEER BYSTAAN. HY HOU VREESLIIK VAN DRANK EN VRIENDE. ONS IS ALBY 28 JAAR OUD

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So the divorce was his decision, and apparently for selfish reasons. To have then changed his mind only a week later, is feeble, frivolous and foolish. It was kind, but not wise, of you to have taken him back. TO have then found that he was still cheating on you, should have been the final straw, confirming that you must complete and finalize the divorce and move on with your own life, and leave him to stew in his own juices, to live with the situation he chose to create.
You have every right to be angry about this. He sounds too immature and self-centred to be worth anyone marrying, and you observe he was like this before you married, and never bothered to change - he's not likely to ever bother to change. Make sure the divorce is completed, and speak with your lawyer about making sure he is evicted from your home, with a court restraining order forbidding him from approaching or bothering you again.

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Posted by: Gibson | 2012/05/24

Yolanda - hy gannie verander nie. Hy gaan permanent rondloop en jy gaan jouself later verwyd dat jy so lank met dieselfde nonsens opgesit het. Jy mors jou lewe met so iemand. Dis baie moeilik vir jou en dis maklik vir ander om te praat as hulle se " Los hom" ! - maar jy''s beter af. Daar''s baie ander ouens wat jou sal waardeer. ''n Mens raak te gewoond aan iemand. Jaag hom Sussie!!

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2012/05/19

So the divorce was his decision, and apparently for selfish reasons. To have then changed his mind only a week later, is feeble, frivolous and foolish. It was kind, but not wise, of you to have taken him back. TO have then found that he was still cheating on you, should have been the final straw, confirming that you must complete and finalize the divorce and move on with your own life, and leave him to stew in his own juices, to live with the situation he chose to create.
You have every right to be angry about this. He sounds too immature and self-centred to be worth anyone marrying, and you observe he was like this before you married, and never bothered to change - he's not likely to ever bother to change. Make sure the divorce is completed, and speak with your lawyer about making sure he is evicted from your home, with a court restraining order forbidding him from approaching or bothering you again.

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Posted by: Casey | 2012/05/18

Miskien is jy beter af sonder hom.

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Posted by: Rin | 2012/05/18

Los hom, as n mens skuldig is raak jy kwaad en hy gaan NIE verander nie...

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