Our expert says:
Men have to learn to control ejaculation if they are to attempt to 'pleasure' their partner through penetrative intercourse, as the male response is normally much quicker than is the case for females. The best way to learn this would be through masturbation where you learn to identify your physical signs (e.g. heightening sensation, a sensation in his testicles, heart rate) that you need to ease off before ejaculation is inevitable (i.e. when the 'twitching' begins, it's probably too late). One way to help with this would be to try scoring your arousal on a scale of 0-10, with 8 being the point at which there's no turning back. You must aim to practice slowing techniques when you reach about 6/10. Slowing techniques could be slowing or changing the rhythm of the friction, trying to take some deep and slow breaths, and try tensing his pelvic floor muscles as if you are trying to stop the flow of urine. Once your arousal has reduced somewhat (e.g. to about 4/10), you can resume stimulation and repeat this process several times before allowing ejaculation to take place.
For further information please consult SASHA’s website at www.sexualhealth.qw.co.za/dru. For referral to a professional in your vicinity, please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
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