Our expert says:
USually children can understand better than you expect, and always they know more than you think they do. Children's ability to understand death develops gradually, so a child of 4 will have a different concept and understand / deal with it differently from a child of 6. Maria's idea of checking for good books about death for children is sound, and check online, too - I usually check somewhere like Amazon.com as they have good reviews by people who have read and used the books ; and then would seek to buy the book from takealot.com, kalahari.com, or loot.co.za, three leading SA online stores, where the prices are usually better, and delivery fairly quick.
Death is like sex, something parents prefer to imagine kids know nothing about till you tell them - and with both, they know much more than you think, think of it more than you imagine, and often significantly and unhelpfully misunderstand it. So having occasional conversations about both topics as a child grows up, dealing with their interests and concerns as they develop, is a useful approach.
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