Our expert says:
Your wife is acting iresponsibly in choosing to have an affair, emotional if not physical, with another man, inoring the fact that she is married and that he is married. I don't know what sort of work she does, but SURELY it is possibly for her to arrange at work for someon else to take on this man as a client ?
What's not clear from your message is whether she has formed a sort of crush on this guy and is loving him from afar --- and whether he is at all aware of this ; or whether they are both aware of a sense of attraction and enjoying flirting and some sort of emotional affair. There's no point in confronting him if he is not aware of or consciously having any relationship with her other than as a client. And though, if he is deliberely part of this, punching him on the nose would be at most only momentarily satisfying for you, and would put you more in the wrong than him ( as well as potentially leading to awkward and entirely unhlpful legal proceedings ). Remain on the moral high ground.
If your wife is sincerely wishing to put things right, and recognizes her error in this, see a marriage counsellor together and see what can be worked out between you, including her transferring him as a client to someone else at work and making no further contact with him. If she refuses to try to solve the problem, and wishes to continue in this way, even if it's immature daydreaming, then you may want to consider separation or similar responses
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