Our expert says:
So the divorce was not your fault, and this would of course have been deeply upsetting to you. Medication is highly unlikely yo help, unless a real p[roperly diagnosed depression has arisen on top of your existing and understandable distress. Counselling should be able to help, but would need your fullest co-operation. Sometimes to a significant extent one may not WANT to "get over" such a separation, not want to accept that it has happened and won't be reversible, and one clings on to the hurt and sadness, as though that is all one has left, as though holding on to the hurt will in some way keep the door open to retrieving that happiness you once had. Letting a counsellor help you to let go of this, will , rather, free you to find new and truer relationship with someone far more worthy of your love.
It sounds as though specifically CBT ) Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy ) is the style of counselling you need, to change the habits of negative thinking you seem to have accumulated over the years, and the re-enacted expectation of faiulure and grief. You can get through this and find far happier times ahead, but it requires even more bravery and boldness on your part, to let go of the bonds of bitterness arising from how madly you were treated before, and opening yourself up to better times
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