Our expert says:
Divorce support expert
23 years is a very long time to try to make things work and have so many scars to show for it. You have a right to not put up with this kind of relationship. You have done the best you could and you deserve to be happy and be in peace.
Your concern about your children is primordial and to raise the fact that you do not want to turn them against their father is very important indeed. Unless they could be in physical danger with their father, as you mention physical abuse to yourself, they should have the right to love and have a relationship with both their parents, unconditionally. Trust that your children's love for both their parents will be reinforced by the respect the parents have towards the other.
Parents are role models, before, during and after a divorce/separation. You have a responsibility towards your children and this shouldn't change after your relationship has ended. Keep loving them and start seeking the happiness you deserve. A happy parent is always a better parent.
I wish you all the best.
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