Our expert says:
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi Discomfort, welcome to the forum and thanks for posting here.
Anal sex should never be about pain, sex is about pleasure. Many guys experience a brief moment of discomfort until the inner sphincter muscle relaxes - which could take a few moments at most. As others have suggested it is very likely that you are not sufficiently relaxed or comfortable. Loads of lube and a bit more time (take it extra slow) could do the trick. And pay more attention to the build-up and foreplay. If you're at all concerned that you may not be clean try fingering yourself for reassurance and you could try different positions for added comfort - sitting on your partner may give you the benefit of feeling in control. Something else to explore is toys - a dildo or butt plug may literally "train" your anal muscles to relax.
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal
advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.