Our expert says:
Ex's generally ought to be Ex. As Ex as possible, and fiddling with the previous relationsbhip which ended for good reasons, whether directly or via Facebook etc, it like picking at a scab - it leaves an uglier scar.
YOU ARE MARRIED. You owe a lot to your husband, you owe NOTHING whatever to your ex.
If he's facing problems nowadays, they're of his own making, and he must fix them, NOT you, and he doesn't need nor deserve to know whether you care about him or wish him well. Stop obsessing about him.
You obviously ha ve NOT allowed yourself to properly get over him ( remember that he "hurt you badly" ) so see a counsellor to help you let go of this. Its over ; you cant fix it and shouldn't try to.
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