Our expert says:
In such fraught situations, one can never be certain you have made the right decision, but it sounds as though you have responded thoughtfully and sensibly so far, especially in insisting that he undergo personal counselling as well as joining you in couples counselling. One place where you can get guidance towards finding good and not too expensive counsellors would be through FAMSA, which should be listed in your phone books, as they are a national organization.
But one has to take the fact of his serious assault on you seriously. This sounds unusually severe, especially as the cause is unclear, and apparently he has never been abusive towards you before. Some people have to be very cautious about drinking alcohol as it can unleash a degree of rage and violence in them they never see when sober, but presumably he has been drunk before in your presence without a response like this.
You refer to "teasing" and it'd be worth thinking back over what was said - maybe you said something intended as light fun that proved to be very much more hurtful to him than you imagined ?
Make sure that the knopkerrie is removed and destroyed, as suh a weapon is not safe to have around until you are again sure it would only be used to defend both of you. And suggest that he avoid alcohol, and you avoid "teasing" until the counseling has begun to progress.
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