Our expert says:
If the family were too cheap to even pay towards the funeral, why did their preference for cremation dominate ? I thought ( at one stage it was true ) that cremation needed a specific indication from the deceased that this is what they would prefer ( in my family we have each placed it in our wills ), and if as next of kin you said this was NOT what he wanted nor you, it could have been prevented. Anyway.
I hope you can explain to your current partner that in this situation, as the legal next of kin and executor, you have little choice but to sort out the estate, and issues like the car, medical aids, etc., are inescapbly yours - nobody else will sort them out for you.
But at a time like this, family and friends should be supporting you, not expecting support from you.
Antidepressants are useless, frankly, in dealing with a stressful and sad situation - they cant make you ignore realities, and shouldn't COuncelling / therapy, especially of the CBT form, CAN help you work on the ways you handle these situations, realistically and emotionally, and help you deal with them more fruitfully and comfortably.
If other people insist that their grief is more respecable and genuine than theirs - ignore and void them, they are being selfish and unhelpful, and who do you owe them respect for views that ignore your feelings ?
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