Our expert says:
If this relationship has been happy enough for you for nearly 9 years, one must wonder what changed. And apparently the change occurred on his side, and not yours.
Yet your description sounds like a very one-sided relationship - loving and almost servile on your side, and simply very convenient on his. Who wouldn't find free love, food and transport convenient ? And to complain that you discourage him from hearty partying and drugging sounds petulant and immature.
It sounds as though he may alread have found someone else, as he seems eager to worsen the situation and cement the separation, rather than to try to solve whatever problems may exist.
He doesn't deserve much sympathy or his depression, if he foolishly refuses to get it properly assessed and treated, and prefers to take it out on you.
When you say you're scared what he might do if you put his things our, that does NOT suggest a healthy relationship. You could consider getting a restraining order, such that he'd be arrested if he bothered or threatened you. If you go to a hotel, that leaves him in complete control of the home. Who does it belong to ? If you, then he has no major rights there, and surrendering it to him might have various unfortunate connotations. If it's his, I suppose you'd have to plan a safe and convenient withdrawal. Similar, you say you share a car - who does the car legally belong to ? If its you, keep it and don't yield it, but how is he going to get to work ?
Maybe other readers will have some useful advice, based on their own experiences.
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