Our expert says:
Good, working people do feel terribly disappointed when they lose their job, even when, as in your example, it is not at all their fault.
It is a blow to one's self-esteem, and we need to recognize that your value has not diminished at all, and you should continue to feel proud of yourself and your values. I do hope other readers can come up with more practical suggestions, too.
Realise that sadly things like this happen to many of u at different times, and it is not at all because of anything bad about you. The world isn't rjecting you, its just so wrapped up in its own problems that it isn't thinking of you at this stage.
If it's not in the law here in SA, it should be - that when a company downsizes ( as is the case in other countries ) it has a duty to help you find new work, and even to provide you with further training to make this easier.
The Maintenance COurt should be able to require the child's father to pay maintenance towards at least her expenses, and you should explore this option. Guys who are prepared to impregnate women, must be prepared to care properly for the resulting child. Don't be too proud to do this for yourself and your child. And if the court agrees that he should pay, he will HAVE to do this, as he could go to jail for contempt of court if he doesn't, or could have it deducted from his pay.
And do discuss it with your family - they may surprise you by being less "grilling" and more helpful than you think.
Keep trying for jobs, especially while it's easier to send out those CVs. Check whether any agencies can help. You have held down 2 jobs well - its not your fault that the companies ran into problems. You would be a good worker, and someone will recognise that if you keep trying.
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