Our expert says:
OK, presumably you have learned that nobody on earth is loved by every tom dick or harry, nor by anyone who just says they love them. Its sad that your father was so inept at relationships that he was unable to accept your love, but that's his fault and his loss. It may indeed be that this has left you a bit desperate to find love from a man who might replace the absent father, but looking for love for the wrong reasons often fails, and some unpleasant people are skilled at sensing your degree of desperation and neediness, and exploiting it unkindly.
You could be greatly helped by a practical, CBT-oriebnted ( not analytically oriented ) psychologist, to improve your self-esteem and free yourself from the bad baggage resulting from your earlier bad experiences.
Psychotherapy needs to take into account the past you experienced, but the great benefit of CBT is that rather than merely rolling around in the past, it concentrates on what unhelpful assumptions,beliefs and habits you developed on the basis of that past, and on then changing those to more fruitful ways of enjoying life.
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