Our expert says:
Everyone messes up at times ; a wise man recognizes when he has messed up, puts it right ( or as right as he can ) and learns from the experience so he won't mess up that way again.
As you recognize, I think, it wasn't her fault that you chose to cheat on her, and of course it's certainly not the fault of the child, whose needs must come first for both of you.
And of course legally, she could have taken you ( and could still, if she is sensible, take you ) to the Maintenance Court and the COurt will decide how much maintenance you should pay towards the child's needs, and the court could compel you to pay ).
As you recognize, it's understandable that she now doesn't want to hatve anything to do with you. But you are being a better man for recognizing what you did wrong, and that you need to try to put it right.
Even if she doesn't reply to your e-mails, you can express the feelings you state in this question, maybe heading it "apology", and she should at least read it.
Are there third parties, people who are friends of both of you, or maybe members of her family, who could communicate to her that you are apologetic and want to help even at this late stage, and who could serve as go-betweens between the pair of you ?
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