Our expert says:
The safest approach is almost always honesty, because the problems that can emerge if things 'unravel' can have a big impact on trust. If you are interested in pursuing this relationship with your lady at work, then I would suggest you tell her what is going on so that should she pick up on anything, she is armed with your side...As for your 64 friend, possibly try to talk to her face to face to apologise for any hurt unintentionally caused, and that you would like to remain friends at the club, but that you would prefer it if she stopped calling you. You have both overstepped the 'friendship' line, and she is acting consistently with this. It may be that you can no longer be friends, but you could try to minimise damage (to her feelings/your name) by being as civil as you can; however, there is only so much you can control and you may have to face up to any rumours that are spread.
Claire - SASHA (www.sexualhealth.co.za)
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