Our expert says:
If a person stops using drugs he/she should not use alcohol at all. Moreover, you should not use any mind altering substance.
Your man was addicted to cocaine, therefore he is an addict. Addicts cannot stop using one drug and then simply switch over to another (alcohol).
They're then simply cross-addicting, although many addicts will find all sorts of wonderful reason why they can drink.
But let's look at his erratic behaviour: it certainly doesn't sound good. He might be using, you are right.
On the other hand he might just be suffering from mood swings and dry drunk behaviour. Google Dry Drunk Behaviour and read up about it.
In AA it refers to someone who has stopped drinking, but still has all the characteristics of a drunk.
Unpleasant, aggressive, bombastic, grandiose, resentful, you name it.
Is you partner attending any NA meetings? If not, this might explain his moodiness. He cannot do his recovery on his own, because this is what happens.
Your old behaviour starts creeping back and the next step is most probably a relapse.
If he is using, there is not much you can do about it really. Perhaps you can confront him in a nice way, but it will most probably lead to a huge drama, with his mood swings and so forth.
His recovery is his responsibility. Address his mood swings and suggest that he sees his doctor about it.
Also suggest that he attends some NA meetings, it will help. If he refuses, so be it. Don't become co-dependent and make it your problem.
There are other more interesting things to do than to worry about an addict, believe me.
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