Our expert says:
Where there are cultural differences, it may be harder than usual ( and its usually not easy, anyway ) to be sure whether what's troubling you within a relationship is due to cultural vactors or ( as it usually is ) purely personal factors. When you're describing someone who blows hot and cold, and treats you diffeently on different occasions, that sounds entirely personal. While cultural factors may affect the over-all style of how he treats women, these wouldn't expect him to vary this approach Discussing things with a mutually respected older person, as you have done, sounds sensible.
If he isn't responding to your different atempts to reach him, there's nothing to be gained by more e-mails, etc. That's a common error we make --- when one type of approach doesn't work, there's no point in just doing the same thing only harder or more often. If ou want to move on, and that sounds like a sensible idea, do so --- simply notify him that the elationship is over and that you're moving on, and leave him no excuse for wandering back with different expectations
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