Posted by: Megan | 2010-05-04

Children visiting

My husband receive the divorce papers last month,just want to know is it a good idea for the children to visit him while the process is not done.

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Dear Megan,

It is important to understand that your divorce is not your children's divorce. Unless there are reason to be concern for their safety, it is important to keep as much normality in their lives as possible and that includes contact with both their parents. If there is a transitional accommodation which is inconvenient for the children visiting keep a routine with visits after school and/or during weekends. Explore alternative with phone calls and possibly skype video to allow your children to not feel separated from their father.
It is not a divorce per se which harms children but the ongoing parental conflicts and unhealthy family situations. Withholding visits could be more harmful than the divorce process. Remember that your children have two parents and to them you will always be their family. Reassure them as much as possible of your love and that both of you will always be their for them.
If you have issues sharing your children with their father I strongly suggest you consider co-parenting coaching to spare your children from much unnecessary hurt.

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Posted by: H | 2010-05-05

Why not? If there is no situation that is dangerous or abnormal there for them.

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