Our expert says:
Its not uncommon for kids, especially at some ages, to hope that divorced parents will get back together again, just as some kids blame themselves and their naughtiness for the breakup.
What you are seking to communicate with your oldest is apparently fairly complex, and in part possibly contradicted by some of what quite reasonably as adults you may choose to do ; it is best accomplished not as a one-off revelation or discussion of a single issue, but as part of an ongoing, trustful, frank discussion of life issues in general, including relationships, differences between adult and child worlds, expectations, and so on. So whenever such life complexities are possible, let alone likely, I recommend that one starts ongoing conversations in a relaxed setting, exchanging iews with the child, so as to better understand each other.
Where time is limited and/or you feel unable to deal with these issues with confidence, the assistance of a child psychologist / counsellor can help
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