Our expert says:
Dear Sad Gran, a good old friend of mine, who studied grief, remarked that "Grief is the price we pay for love". Many people move away, or you lose contact with them, and they meant very little to you, and you don't feel sad. With anyone close, losing contact with them is troublesome ; especially where you have been very close, as with your raising these sons and bonding so closely with them. What you describe is a very normal reaction, and without it, one would wonder whether there had indeed ben love between you. But at least this is not separation by death, which is permanent. Visits will be possible, from them to you, if not practical from you to them ; and contact by phone, Skype ( see if they can install it for you and yourselves ) even video-calls, and e-mail, are newer possibilities far more helpful than in earlier days, when one had to wait weeks or months for letters to pass between you.
You will work through this, and can maintain a useful sense of closeness even when geographically separated. And try to fill the space, by getting involved in worthwhile charitable and similar work, so you can continue to find practical applications for all your love, and continue to be useful to others, which I expect has become a habit with you by now !
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