Our expert says:
Various psychobabblers and quacks have created false expectations in this area - leading some of us to believe inaccurately that we ought to be able to remember most of our past, when memory is necessarily patchy, and in our earliest years we don't yet have the capacity to form acessible memories.
They also foster a false belief that one has to dig deeply, internally, into one's past, to discover who one is or indeed to solve any problems one has encountered.
Fortunately they are wrong, and should be ignored.
Matters of low self-esteem and lack of confidence can be rather well dealt with by counselling, especially of the CBT ( Cognitive-behaviour Therapy ) format. Maybe the Anciety-Depression Support Group can help you find some meetings near you, and also to explore possible counselling at low cost at a nearby medical school of psychology training unit.
Similarly, you can undoubtedly better yourself, if you can form clear plans that identify where betterment is needed, and how to achieve that. It will NOT be achieved by endless navel gazing in despair - that is simply a waste of time and energy.
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