Our expert says:
Maria's response is excellent. Of course it is normal and OK to feel as you do. Your husband has chosen a different way of trying to cope, one that often in the end doesn't work well, bu trying to forget and move on. It is possible, though, rather, to remember and yet move on, to remember with calm pleasure that the child was, rather than with bitter regret that they are no longer here.
Look abd check if there is within reach of you a branch of the organization The COmpassionate Friends, which consists of parents who have lost a child, at whatever age, who support and help each other. It was founded by someone I kn ew in the UK< and there are SA branches which I have in the past helped
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