Our expert says:
Of course, getting beside oneself is rarely a helpful response, even if understandable. But, even if such exploration didn't happen in yourchildhood, it is extremely common among kids. Kids are curious. They're built that way. And as adults are usually very secretive about sex and bodies, kids can get a bit ingenious in trying to check out how other people are made and structured.
I wonder exactly what you feel so afraid of ? He is not seeking to harm the younger child, or to engage in overt sexual activity - he was looking. And the more we behave as though even looking is a terrible thing to do, the more curious a child may be about what this great mystery is.
Purple's response is just right - calm, and correct. The younger child would be unable to remember such an event - nor even your appalled reaction to it, and will not be harmed or bothered.
Calm down, and maybe read up a bit about sex, to be able to get into the natural and helpful chats with the child, such as Purple describes.
Purple's story about her experience this morning is excellent - not only well handled, but typical - curiosity satisfied, the kid went off to play with his toy truck.
I so much agree that it is essential to work with curiosity, and not to teach, deliberately or accidentally, that the body and sex is filthy and dangerous. That doesn't protect kids, but can indeed be lastingly bothersome for them. And I also strongly agree that one of the primary lessons to teach is about respect for privacy, one's own and that of others.
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