Our expert says:
Drinking and partying until late is a really immature way of behaving, and entirely selfish, especially for a married man. Whether or not he is gaving an affair - has he any convincing plans for acually growing up any time in the foreseeable future ?
There is no possible excuse for sending "I love you" messages to anyone, not even his mother. Lying is not justified either, and "as a distraction" is no excuse. If there is conflict within a relationship which a couple can't solve by working on it together, one seeks the help of a marriage counsellor, not a mistress.
Don't blame yourself or accept blame, and don't accept empty promises that its over or wont happen again. Insist on him joining you in proper counselling.
Otherwise "closure" will be denial, without nothing bad having actually been properly closed. It's not about finding ways for YOU to "get past this" ; its about together placing it in the past and making a shared future together
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