Our expert says:
Stress, such as that caused by an unexpected and alarming pregnancy, can so pre-occupy one with the anxieties and concerns, that one feels less loving ; so can Depression, which can arise both in relation to the stress and the hormonal changes of pregnancy. There can also be Post-Natal depression, which can be lasting and damage any loving relationship.
Were you deeply in love with your husband before the unexpected pregnancy ? Or did the pregnancy, perhaps even his responses to it, reveal a lack of loving there from the start ?
It sounds like you are both unhappy and bothered and frustrated by this. Would there be value in seeing a marriage counsellor together ? Even while separated ? Mabe things can be usefully sorted out ; maybe not - but even then its better to part with each of you better understanding what went wrong, and how to avoid similar problems in future.
See a lay / professional counsellor, not a church counsellor. Maybe a church-based counsellor can help you review the spiritual dimensions of this. Does one expect God to give you enough support to work with expert help and sort things out yourself ? Or do you expect Him to do or take charge of the work itself ?
As Jenna says, if you have been persistently unloving towards him ( which is not generally what most religions expect between a married couple ) it would be very understandable if he became drustrated and angry, wouldn't it ?
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