Our expert says:
OK. Your husband nas a severe and irresponsible gambling problem which needs attention. Personally, I think the law should make it impossible for bookmakers, casinos, or others who profit off unwise gamblers, to be able to recover ANY money they allow the person to gamble other than actual physical cash delivered by hand - they should not be allowed toe xtend credit and then expect to be repaid. When I have to go to hospital for an emergency last week, I had to PAY, IN ADVANCE, R 22,000 to the hospital before I could be admitted, though I was in very severe pain. Yet a gambling set-up which advances many thousands of rands of "credit" to someone they know is unlikely to win or to be able to pay it back, does not need to behave in this way ?
He must pay what he owes you and the child, above all else, even if he has to wash cars to earn it. If he worked harder and longer, he would have less time for gambling.
If he has taken money from ANYONE else's credit card, that is criminal, fraud or theft or both, and he should face criminal charges, and this might lead to some useful difficulties in continuing to gamble. He can have himself banned from casinos. Divorce would seem like a reasonable idea in the situation you describe, as he is being abusive and seems on the brink of becoming more so. Stop, immediately, paying off ANY of yhis debt and make it very clear that this will never happen abain - paying off his debts has HELPED him to keep on gambling.
Hopw has je managed to get you to protect him and pay for his bad habits, and then feel guilty for what HE does wrong ? See a counselor for yourself, see a good lawyer, and protect yourself and your child
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