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Posted by: Zola | 2012/01/20

caught cheating

my wife find out i was cheating with the mesages she saw on my phone, very damning mesages, what do i do?

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Apologise, consider personal counselling to help you sincerely promise to do your best to never cheat again, respect her right to be furious and hurt, and consider also couples counselling if she is prepared to try to make a continuing future with you.
As Hanah says, ignore the guff that Archbishop Tutu and others preach that imply victims have a duty to forgive people who harm or hurt them. being forgiven is a privilege which you should try to earn but do not deserve automatically.

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Posted by: Hanah | 2012/01/20

You were cheating. You were in the wrong - admit that and get some help. Don''t try force her to forgive you and don''t you dare try make it her fault. Give her time and DON''T get angry if she takes her time to deal with this. If you plan on cheating on her again, rather just leave. She doesn''t deserve any negative comments or actions from you.

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Posted by: cybershrink | 2012/01/20

Apologise, consider personal counselling to help you sincerely promise to do your best to never cheat again, respect her right to be furious and hurt, and consider also couples counselling if she is prepared to try to make a continuing future with you.
As Hanah says, ignore the guff that Archbishop Tutu and others preach that imply victims have a duty to forgive people who harm or hurt them. being forgiven is a privilege which you should try to earn but do not deserve automatically.

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