Our expert says:
Often, though some people indeed can be hypersensitive, there's a lot that can be achieved by working on HOW you talk about issues.
Sometimes the tone of voice one uses sounds like whining or demanding to the other person ; sometimes it sounds like a direct criticism and blaming them for anything that's wrong. And of course if you get more emotional and cry, that will put him off - men enerally have difficulty coping with their own emotions, let alone anyone else's.
Try calmly talking about neutral things, for a start ( the welcome death of Osama, the daft hats at the Royal Wedding, whtever ), and then raise one issue important to you, and then discuss it as something that you'd appreciate hearing his advice about ( so he thinks of how to help, not how to defend himself against criticism )- and describe your concern in terms of how you feel about it, and what worries you, rather than in terms of whatever he might do described in ways that make it sound as though he's upseting you deliberately.
You know ? Rather than saying : "You never pay attention to my feelings", you could say : " WHen I'm feeling bad, I hesitate to mention them because I don't want to upset you to, but I'd like you to undersdtand how I'm feeling, as you might be able to help me."
Rather than saying : "You're always puttin me down", say more concretely, "When you do / say X, I feel put down."
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