Our expert says:
Presumably the photo of your ex didn't just magically appear when you were on facebook - were you actively looking for information or pix of him ? If so, isn't that the primary problem ?
Shouldn't you be seeing, as you should earlier on, a psychologist / counsellor, to deal with your feelings about the relationship, the breakup, and the abortion ?
Never allow "closure" to become the gift of someone else. It is you who needs to close the door on that phase of life, not him.
Dealing successful with the emotional hangover from this previous sad relationship may indeed help you to not only be happier in your marriage, but more successful in achieving pregnancy.
How your ex feels about things is actually irrelevant - it's how you choose to feel about it that matters. His behaviour confirms that you are NOT going to have a relationship, let alone a happy one, with him. And to even dream unrealistic fantasies of this is unfair to your husband and yourself.
The inconvenient feelings that trouble you may appear to be love, but are probabl something more complex than that.
See a personal counsellor and work through your kound of unfinished business, and then maybe even marriage counselling once you have achieved that
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