Our expert says:
If you weren't in HR, one would suggest you see HR about this --- indeed, if someone else came to you with this problem --- how would you advise them ? The degree of stress is highly likely to be relevant in the flare-up of the Crohn's. Boyfriend needs to be told nobody will support him in his hobby of "being unsure" --- in these days, he's lucky to get any job, and should then stay in it until either he IS sure, or until he can find an even better one. Make it clear that you will stop supporting him unless he gets a job and waits in the job to feel sure. And that it is HIS task to get and keep a job to support his mother, not yours.
Make an effort to eat well, with maybe some vitamin & iron supplements, as improving physial strength will help all round. And make time to see a counsellor for yourself, and work out the best way of modifying this ultimately unsupportable way of life.
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