Our expert says:
This must have been terribly sad and disturbng for you. DOn't give up ; you will find that there will be much more for you and your son to live for --- don't let a man who behaved worse than a rat, cause you to punish yourself. Consult a lawyer. Does he work for a company in Angola ( in which case through their local office you could take some action against him ) or does he work for himself ? If he is married to you, he cannot be "engaged" to another woman, and you may warn the Angolan authorities to look out for this, as bigamy is a crime. The lawyer may be able to advise whether any of what he has owed you over the years can be recovered; a court can fix a Maintenance amount it can seek to compel him to pay. Is he a SA citizen ? If not, it may be more difficult. Does he have a SA bank account or other assets here ?
As he has been lying to you, he may even have been lying to the opther woman, who may not even know about his responsibilities and debts here. DOn't just give up the house in Pretoria --- if it is paid up and money is not owing on it, it is an asset which could possibly be legally seized and sold to pay his debts to you and for maintenance.
Cymbalta can help to treat Depression, but can't make anyone fel happy in such an awful situation. DO, please, also see a local counsellor or psychoatherapist to work on your feelings, and to help you make realistic plans to ensure that you and your child can have the happier future that you deserve
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